This Week’s Recovery Application Challenge
Be sure to complete TWIRL 020 before continuing this TWRAC activity
Examine Anger and Resentment
Please respond to the following questions to apply this week’s lesson to your plan for daily recovery:
- How effectively would you say you manage your anger? Explain what typically happens when you become angry.
- How effectively would you say you manage disappointment? Explain how you manage disappointment.
- What is your means and methods for engaging in competition? How well would others that know you say you handle losing? What would they say, or have said?
- What is your method for dealing with confrontation when you have little to lose?
- What is your method for dealing with confrontation when you have a great deal to lose?
- What is your style for engaging in an argument?
- What would say you do in an argument when you believe you are right but your foe will not back down?
- What would you say is typical behavior when you are in conflict with your mate?
- What would your mate say is typical of you when engaged in a conflict?
- How effective are you at admitting that you are wrong? Explain.
- How effective would your mate say you are at admitting you are wrong? Explain.
- How do you feel when you are proven wrong? Explain.
- How would you say you typically handle anger and disappointment when you have been wronged? Explain.
- How would you say you react when your accomplishments are not recognized?
—Emotionally
—Behaviorally
- Would you say that you need to be validated by others? Explain.
- What are situations from the past when you felt most angry?
—Event
—People involved
- -Honestly, have you been able to forgive those involved in the event of the past that was egregious against you?
—If yes, what did it take?
—If not, what will it take?
- Do you find that you feel resentment toward those who hurt you in the past? Explain what you’re feeling.
- What in your current circumstances and relationships do you feel anger towards? List them.
—What?
—Who?
- How are you able to express your anger in your relationships?
- How are you not able to express your anger in your relationships?
- To whom in your present relationships do you feel resentment towards? List them.
- On a scale of 1-100, how intense is the resentment toward each person on the list?
- Do you feel resentment toward those who have caused you feelings of shame in your life? Explain.
- Do you feel resentment toward those who left you feeling wounded? Explain.
- Honestly, what would you say is your penchant for revenge?
- What would you say are your the tools for vengence that you are inclined to use when the situation calls for it?
- Do you ever find yourself writing the script in your mind for how arguments, confrontations, and acts of vengeful behavior will be played out? Explain and perhaps provide an example..
- Do you imagine worst-case scenarios? Explain.
- Have you felt rage in the past? Explain.
- How would you say rage is revealed in your behavior? What would others say?
- How would you say rage is revealed in your thoughts and feelings? What would others say?
- Are you right now feeling a bit angry? Explain.
- Are you right now wrestling with resentment? Explain.
- Are you holding on to your anger?
- Are you choosing to give in to the disease of resentment?
- Are you seething inside about something?
- Are you happy and enjoying the experience of unresolved anger and resentment?
- If not, what stage of change would you say you are in regarding recovery from this problem?
It is time to admit that you need help from this problem. You can talk about the worst of this addiction and that addiction, but know absolutely, nothing is more addictive than this problem of unresolved anger and resentment. It will slowly burn from within and then suddenly explode. Physically, the stress of unresolved anger can erode the tissues of your heart until it kills you. Of course, emotionally and spiritually, unresolved anger and resentment erodes the heart of a man, and erodes the heart and soul of a woman. It will destroy our children.
And “don’t sin by letting anger control you.” Don’t let the sun go down while you are still angry, for anger gives a foothold to the devil. Ephesians 4:26-27
Refer to the Action Plan from TWRAP 019 for the problem you identified there. Then, prayerfully develop an Action Plan specific to areas of anger and resentment that you need to be set free from to experience authentic recovery in your daily life.
Doing a 4th-Step Personal Inventory would be appropriate in the examination of anger and resentment.
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